Do Opposites Attract?

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by Leslie Foley

We’ve all seen them―those couples that seem so mismatched that we find ourselves puzzling over how they got together in the first place. The new-agey vegetarian dating the conservative cattle rancher or the introvert who says barely a word while his loquacious wife regales their companions―what on earth do they have in common?

The old adage “opposites attract” certainly seems to be true in these cases. But the question isn’t whether or not opposites attract; it’s whether or not opposites can have a lasting relationship without driving each other crazy. One needs only look at mismatched celebrity couples (Jesse James and Sandra Bullock spring to mind) to see that differences can certainly make a long-term relationship rocky.

Recent studies have lent credence to the idea that while we may want someone different initially, down the road we tend to do best with partners with similar personality traits. In fact, similarities in personality have been shown to be more important than similarities in attitude, religion or values in creating a happy marriage.

The key here isn’t that opposites can’t have a successful relationship―it’s that the differences need to be ones that the couple can live in harmony with. What might be a deal breaker for one person, may hold no significance for another. But some issues are too critical to ignore. An honest evaluation, and lots of communication now, can help smooth the way to a lasting, happy relationship. Here are some major issues I think you need to consider before you become deeply involved with an opposite:

Finances
There are many minefields in this particular area, and it’s important to know where you and your partner stand on money matters. Are you a spender and she’s a saver? Is this something you can live with over time? What about checking accounts―separate or combined? And how will decisions over big ticket items be made? Money often becomes very closely linked with control, so be honest about how much of both you need.

Personal Habits
Are you always late and he’s early? Do you smoke and he doesn’t? Is he a slob and you’re a neat freak? Do you want an exercise buddy and he wants his special recliner? Some habits can be different and endearing, while some will be the thing that sends you over the edge time and time again. For example, if you can see yourself enjoying sitting on the sidelines and cheering while your fitness-fanatic mate plays soccer or runs his tenth marathon, then chances are it’s not going to be an issue. However, if you think all that time spent training and away from home is a waste, you can count on this being an argument you’ll be having for years to come.

Age
This is one of my favorites. I always wonder what some of these older men want with much younger girls. Talk about opposites. She wants to go out late and sleep in, he wants to go to bed early to get up early for golf. He tells stories about social security and she wonders what security company he’s talking about. She wants a baby and he’s been there, done that. And cougars: Is he young enough to be your son? Can he understand all this PMS/menopause stuff? Differences in age can create all sorts of conflict, especially when there are few shared hobbies or pastimes. However, a May-December romance can work if the couple are evenly matched intellectually, physically and personality-wise. Just expect to get the nasty comment or aside every now and then.

Politics/Religion
They may be black-listed as party conversation topics, but religion and politics needs to be addressed in any relationship. Are you a staunch Catholic and he’s expecting to carry on his Jewish faith? Perhaps you see the two of you attending service, and he can only see the two of you attending football games. And politically―are there hot-button issues for you? Did you vote for Obama and he still doesn’t believe he’s a citizen of the U.S.? Here again, differences can add spice―just think of Dem strategist James Carville and his Republican political pundit wife Mary Matalin, who’ve been turning political differences into entertaining dinnertime debate since 1993.

Family
You want a big family, he’s happy with a single child. Who decides how much time one spends with family and in-laws? You want a family vacation, she doesn’t like to travel. The importance of family can be very deep-seated, and for some, non-negotiable. It’s best to find out where you both stand on the issue of children, relatives and whose family traditions you’ll be incorporating into your future celebrations. It can be a lovely blending of expectations or a contentious nightmare for years to come—best to find out now which you can expect.

Of course, we can’t always be on the same page about everything and why would we want to be. In the long run, what matters is how you get along. With all these differences, is there enough in common to keep you together? Do you share chemistry? Are you friends? Do your differences keep you from enjoying each other or do your differences help to keep the relationship interesting and growing?

Opposites can help balance a relationship. I don’t want to end up with a male carbon-copy of me. I want to end up with someone who has different interests from my own, a person who brings something new to the relationship, has their own opinions, and offers something that makes me want to be with them.

And you? Take a good look and see if the good outweighs the bad or the positive rates higher than the negative. And be sure that the differences are ones you can live with and love, rather than spend a lifetime trying to change.